Third Time’s the Charm
Like many relationship stories, ours could be better described as a journey. It is a journey of Josh being true to his heart towards me, and me being true to my heart towards him. Josh and I have been married for six months now, and I have to say, each month gets better and better!
We met in 2008. After Josh and I met through mutual friends, he expressed interest in me and said he wanted to get to know me more. Unbeknownst to Josh, I had just started dating my old boyfriend with the intention of getting married to him. So, I told Josh that he seemed like a good guy, but I was dating someone else…so, “thanks, but no thanks.” He said okay, and that was that.
Because we had many mutual friends, we developed a friendship as we hung out in a group setting. I eventually realized that although my head was telling me marry this other guy, my heart was saying, “no.” Finally, I listened to my heart (after about five years of on-again, off-again relationship with him). Breaking up with him was one of the hardest, yet most liberating, things I had ever done.
After the dust settled from my breakup, Josh asked me out again. I thought about it, then said, “no.” Though we had a connection, I was scarred, not ready, and still trying to figure out what my heart was saying. I didn’t know, and I was afraid of not honoring my inner self again, so I just simply said, “no, never.”
At this point, Josh felt he had to let me go. So, he hiked up a mountain in Northern California, wrote me a letter, buried it, and hiked back down. Goodbye. Shortly after, I moved away, and we barely kept in contact. It wasn’t until we both went on a surf/mission trip to Costa Rica with a group of our mutual friends about a year and a half later that we re-kindled our friendship.
Again, Josh put his heart out on the line. I was getting ready to move out of the country to take a job and Josh flew down to the city I was in to surprise me, see me off, and tell me that he wanted to pursue me. Finally, I realized and accepted that I did have feelings for him, and I told him that he could pursue me. We kept in touch over skype. Josh visited me a few times, and we finally started officially dating. Four months after I moved back to the country, Josh proposed to me. Four months after that we got married. My heart said yes to him, and I listened to it. Because of that, I truly have a peace and resolve about being with him that I had never experienced in any relationship prior. Because I know my heart is truly at peace with being with him, I have the deep resolve and pure motivation needed to face challenge that comes up between the two of us. We are excited to Celebrate Forever together – to thrive and not simply survive.
If you are not married and want to be, I want to inspire you that you don’t have to settle or compromise your heart to find a mate. Be true to yourself, and you will find true love. When you honor the “no” inside of your heart, you give power to your, “yes.”
After we got engaged, Josh hiked back up the mountain to see if the letter that he had once written was still there. He found it!
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